Yeah, I agree, best to get out of the 'diet' kind of thinking. What helps me is to take it to the 'lifestyle' level.
Here's what I eat, generally, though it varies, and I am constantly listening to my very wise body and tweak accordingly. I don't focus on fats or fruit, nor do I exclude them overall...but if my body says "not today"...I don't.
I make a green smoothie every morning, I eat fruit, I eat stuff like avocado sandwiches on sprouted grain, dips, tortillas, I eat some dehydrated stuff like pizza, crackers, etc and I eat raw deserts but only once in a while. This winter, I'm guilty of eating SAD soups at Caper's grocery store (at their salad bar). I'm probably forgetting something...I haven't had my coffee yet. Yes I see the irony.
In the beginning, when I was in the middle of my 'breakup' from cooked foods
I ate a lot more. Here's a week of the way I ate
. It worked great, but now I find I need less of everything. Plus, I was new to raw, and a keener
I'm lazier now
It took a while to get out of that 3 meals per day thinking, or even 5 little meals per day thinking, and now I just eat when I'm truly hungry.
From May to August I was raw until dinner, at which time I'd steam a meal of vegetables and fish or chicken. I lost about 40 lbs then, a lot of which was the beer I'd just quit
From August to November, I went 100% raw, meaning raw dinner as well...though to this day, I struggle with coffee and hot soup. I chalk it up to addiction and winter, lol.
To my green smoothie, I add maca, aloe, coconut oil, cacao, goji to my greens which include romaine, spinach and sometimes chard or kale, depending what's in the fridge...along with apple, banana, blueberries and lately raspberries (the berries are frozen but the apple/banana aren't.)